Five Minute Friday: Should

The word for this week’s Five Minute Friday free-write is “should.”  (Click on the image above to find some other great posts in the linkup too.) Here goes:

I use the word “should” too often when I talk.  Such as, “I should start on my homework,” “I should read that new bestseller,” or “I should call that friend I’ve been meaning to connect with.”  The “shoulds” in my life sometimes tend to drown out the “wants” or the “needs.”

The deal is that these things I feel I should be doing are often just expectations I have placed upon myself.  They are not things anyone else is feeling I need to be doing (although sometimes they are things I perceive others want me to do).

And that there is the kicker because in all of this I am not dealing with the reality of the situation.  Instead I am letting my own or other’s expectations (perceived or otherwise) control my actions.  In the end, this type of thinking is not beneficial to anyone!

A verse comes to mind in all this: Galatians 1:10 says, “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

So trying to please others, or myself, and doing what I feel I “should” be doing is not the way God has called me to live. instead, God desires that I lived into the unique giftings He has given me, seeking only to hear: “‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’” (Matthew 25:21).


7 thoughts on “Five Minute Friday: Should

  1. Lesley

    I agree, it’s far too easy to get caught up in our own expectations or what we feel others expect of us and it adds so much unnecessary stress, when God is really the only one we should be looking to please. Visiting from FMF #32.

  2. Andréa Lane

    Isn’t amazing how much pressure we put on ourselves based on those perceived thoughts! I too get caught up in comparing what others are doing with what I’m doing and try to draw myself up to their standard, forgetting that just because they have this one thing figured out doesn’t mean they have everything straight. There are many areas I excel where others might look in and percieve things they should be doing. A vicious cycle! We must get off. So glad you shared today 🙂

    1. Bethany Post author

      Yes, a vicious cycle indeed! Glad what I shared could help you think it through. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  3. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    Great post, Bethany. When I was alive (well, not terminally ill) one of my ‘shoulds’ was exercise.

    If I could possibly complete my seven-mile run and two hours of weightlifting, I did it. Otherwise I felt guilty.

    I felt stupid, later, spending so much time on that! And for what?

    As it turns out…being extremely fit has helped me survive four years past my sell-by daye…and counting. So I guess it was a kind of stupid smart thing.

    Or smart stupidity.


    #1 at FMF this week.


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